Now go back and notice the antennas on the cars. While there may be less cars with antennas today, I would get you did not notice the antennas the first time you looked.. As you look again, do you see the antennas?

What we look for is what we see and it becomes our reality. Notice your story and your premises that you are caring on life, people and work. Are they really what you want to be focusing on? Are they what you want to be seeing? In order to see something different, you have to look for something different.

Try to put your premises and stories about others and the world away today, and see what “new” things you notice and see. (my favorite filter is to “put the best construction on everything” as you do that, how does your reality change?)

While everything in life is not positive and a “bowl of cherries”, there is little value that comes from griping, complaining and excuses. Look for the opportunities and silver linings, there is usually one there.

Christy Geiger, Executive Business Coach & Trainer, Minneapolis, MN

“I don’t want to set goals, but I like results. What should I do?” Often this is from a fear. Reality is that in order to set a goal; you must decide what you want. Many people prefer to leave all the options open, picking nothing, and defaulting to “life” to pick their destiny for them. Whether you resist goal setting because of a fear of failure, success, pressure, or whatever the reason, the fact remains; you cannot arrive where you have not set out to go. People who set goals have something to attain; and often do. You cannot attain what you have not set. Do yourself a favor, evaluate where you want to end up, determine a viable course to get there, pick a focus and work toward it. You can always adjust or change if after several months doors are closing, but at least then you can disregard this option!

“I have lots of ideas and goals, but I am overwhelmed where to start?” Often, goal setters can set too many goals. Three SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timed) goals are about the max a human brain can really focus on. I prefer to have ONE focus statement that combines several goals.

For example, if your goals are:

1. Earn 5K a month by being disciplined and focused on money making activities.
2. Refine skills (education) and processes to hold my clients more accountable to exceed goals.
3. Grow personally, more study time, expand family, eat better/work out, have an organized home.

Then you focus statement could be:
I am energized to be a focused and disciplined IBO, earning 5K/mo. coaching and training ‘Movers and Shakers’ to exceed their goals, while living in integrity nurturing and advancing my faith, family, health and home.