Understanding our emotions and how to respond to them, is a growing skill in leadership. Emotional management allows humans to lead better as they understand and support their followers.
Leaders can use the SCARF model to help them communicate in a way that helps people feel more secure and ensures what they say does not activate threat (fear and mistrust). The SCARF model has five domains: Status, Certainty, Autonomy, Relatedness, and Fairness.
Great communication does not happen accidentally or without effort. Like with anything, what we practice and are intentional to develop we improve in and master. Communication is something that is constantly changing so the mastery of it is challenging and a constant moving target. Despite this, the commitment to improve
Do you have any favorite sayings or words you frequently use or have made up to reference something? I find that there are a few words that I commonly use to help reference or summarize concepts. I hear others using the words, so thought I would share a few in
We are in a time of ongoing change. This can trigger us as we feel uncertainty to what is known and expected. Uncertainty can stop us in our tracks.
Criticism is a fact of life, and the sooner you learn to handle it positively, the better you can use that feedback for your own success.
Different personalities, experiences, and histories can leave a leader feeling baffled as to how to effectively communicate, provide meaningful feedback, and inspire positive change in their followers. Neuroscience gives some great tips on feedback approaches that are effective and translate well to any individual’s brain.
The challenge: How can leaders navigate forward with innovation while followers are still in SCARF mode in the present and not ready to move forward.
Leaders can help themselves in 3 ways:
Leaders are in a constant state of learning and change. Leaders come to executive coaching to help gain insight for themselves to identify blind spots, to fill in leadership ditches, and to better achieve their goals. An accelerant to this is understanding how the brain works. Neuro awareness and skills can help a leader personally, and then as they hone their skills, they can practice, share, and mentor with their followers. Understanding how the brain works supports ourselves and our team to get the best results for human performance. Why? Because really, we are our brains.
Bubble wrap reminds me of what a friend of mine always said about living life in a bubble. She found her joy and happiness because she shielded herself from outside attacks, challenges, and annoyances with the invisible “bubble” she put around herself. It wasn’t unhealthy or overly “protecting” so to speak, it was just a “boundary” of separating herself from people who wanted to barf on her, be negative, critical, condescending, discouraging, leaching, using or having silent expectations that were exhausting and unrealistic to fulfill. It was a way to define “my world”, “my perspective” and “my joy” separate from the lens and unfiltered opinions others like to project on us.
